Thursday, October 9, 2008

Prayers Needed

I know there are quite a few people who read my blog but don't always comment. If you are one of those readers, thank you.

If you are one of those readers, please read, I'm asking for prayers.

First, you may have noticed the tag on top over to the right on my blog. I'm sure I won't get it all correct, I'm just an online friend of Mike's mommy. But the important thing is that Mike and his family need our prayers in a big way. Mike is an angelic looking boy with a twinkle of mischeif in his gorgeous eyes. He's the beloved little brother of Katie who is 6 and the only son of Matt and Chrissie. He is loved by many. Within the past month Mike needed an MRI to rule out anything having to do with speech delays. His parents were told he had speech apraxia and I believe the MRI was to rule things out. When the results came back there were some abnormalities. While waiting for the appointment to discuss this, Mike woke up one morning with some swelling in his eyes (I think that's right). I believe within a few days he was admitted to the hospital and doctors began running tests to figure out what was going on. At this point all they know is a tumor on his spinal/brain chord. (I might be getting this part wrong too) They do not know if it is malignant or benign. It's all a waiting game. They do think whatever it is that it will be a rare form. Having any loved one go through something like this is difficult. Having a child go through this, esp one so young has got to be hell. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. While not the best of friends and certainly having our differences, my heart is just aching for Chrissie and what she must be feeling these days. Please keep this family in your prayers.....and for my LDS friends/family if you feel the need to do so please add their names to the temple rolls where you live. They are not LDS but she says she'll take all the prayers others can give.

And now sadness has struck my family as well.

Earlier this year, my grandma tripped over a sidewalk in a parking lot and injured her face pretty badly. She was finally feeling better from that and she had a worse fall in front of my parent's house. (she's been living with them for the past 3 years) A long hospital stay, a convelescant hospital stay and finally back home and still she hasn't been 100% to where she was before. Grandma Maxine has always been a spry active woman even when she should have slowed down. But with a fall that bad we were told she wouldn't be spry again. She's had her good days and bad but she seemed to be doing better. Sadly this past Tuesday, while my mom was baby-sitting Laura for me, grandma had another fall. We don't know the details. Mom was out here only a few hours. When she got home, she found gran on the floor of her room. She'd apparently had a bad weekend. Not always knowing who mom was, forgetting things like already getting a glass of milk when she had 2 others in her room already. Monday night she had a really bad night, kept mom up late with her wanderings thinking a car was missing from the driveway among other things. Then Tuesday morning dad found her on the floor looking for a sock saying she had to go find her mama. My great-grandma passed away when my mom was pregnant with me I believe. But because grandma was sleeping when she left, mom figured it was still safe to come out.

Then she came home and found her on the floor. I feel bad. I know it's not my fault. But I still feel as if it were my fault for needing mom to come watch Laura while I went to a doctor appointment. Mom can't lift her due to having her arm prepped for future dialysis so she had to call 911. She was taken to a trauma center. Once she started coming to, she still could not talk or eat, still did not know who mom is, where she is, what happened. An MRI was done (I'm beginning to hate MRI's!) and it was discovered that she had a series of small strokes that brought on advances stages of dementia. The doctor told mom today that it could take anywhere from weeks to 8 months before she passes on. I haven't always gotten along with my grandma. She was very opinionated and well so am I. So we clashed a lot. But we loved each other regardless and it's hard to think that she won't be around much longer. And then tonight as I was starting this blog my mom called. She wanted to know if I would be upset if she didn't have them put a permanent feeding tube in. She already had to sign papers about reviving. Grandma had made it very clear in the last few years that if she ever needed life support that she did NOT want it. But she also apparently made it clear to my mom and to a couple of her close friends that she did not want to live with dementia or alzheimer's either. In this case if mom choose a feeding tube and grandma is able to use her tongue again for eating then she would still have the dementia, that's not reversable. I tearfully told my mom that I loved grandma and don't want her to pass on but that if these were her wishes then mom has a hard decision to make. I can't give my input because the final decision rests on her shoulders. I did highly suggest she get a blessing and then pray about it tonight and see what Heavenly Father wants her to do. I think I'll do the same.

I love my grandma and I never thought it would happen quite like this. Maybe it's because I had one grandparent pass away in her sleep. Then the fact that grandma Maxine has always been so strong, so able, so active. So to see her like this is very difficult for me and all of us. Please keep our family, esp my mom Sunny, in your prayers right now. With her kidney disease, I worry about her alot when times our emotional or stressful. And this is one of those times.

Thanks. I know that through prayer we will all be comforted in what we are dealing with.


Miz said...

Kathryn, I can relate to many of the things with your grandmother. I'm sorry you also have to go through this.

Wendy said...

Ohhhh bless your heart. When I first got married we lived in the basement of my husband's grandmother. She had the beginnings of dementia. My husband would always tell me that she wasn't always like this. It was difficult for him to see her like that.

You and your family (and friends) are in my prayers.

HUGS from your Aussie friend,

The Crazy Coxes said...

So sorry to hear about your heartache. I hope that you find peace with all the things goin on around you!

Mark said...

Hi. Kathryn. I read your blog about Mike and his possible diagnosis of Verbal Apraxia. There is hope and promise for children with apraxia. Are you aware of the ongoing research with nutritional interventions utilizing omega 3 and vitamin E together to reduce inflammation and oxidation showing promise in helping these kids? See All the best and be well.

GREENLAW said...

i hope things are going a little better. i'll keep you in my prayers!

Chrissie, Christine, Chris, Mommy, Mama, Maaaaa... said...

Hi Kat... I have been checking your blog to see how things are with your grandmother... how is she? how are you? and how is your mom?? I have been keeping her, and you and your family in my prayers girl.